Nothing ever created exists without purpose. Even a dumb rock has a purpose. Likewise, every single person is born with a purpose, yet so few people actually know theirs.


Many have not realised that their dream is within them and are living their lives through something their parents desired for them or even worse, something convenience dictated to them.  Most people never pursue their own inner passion. But until you find your voice, you will always be singing someone else’s song. However, the world needs your song! I love this quote by Maya Angelou:


“A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song.”



No one else can discover your purpose for you. A mentor plays an important role – he can guide you, but only you can lead yourself to the birthplace of purpose. I call this your “burning bush experience.” Taken from the biblical story of the Egyptian prince who became a great leader to his people. His name was Moses. He discovered his purpose when God appeared to Him through a burning bush experience.

If you listen to motivational speakers, all of them encountered a “burning bush experience,” each in their own unique way. This defining moment each one of them is able to trace it back to a particular place, to a particular hour and a particular date. This is how powerful your introduction is to destiny!


I hope that the following questions will assist you in illuminating your Destiny.

How To Discover Your Purpose

1. What do I stand for?


All of us have a particular conviction; a hot button, that when pushed, the juices flow. This marks the instance when we stand up, speak up and be heard, even at the price of death!

As the great Martin Luther Jr. said, “Life is not worth living for until you find something worth dying for.”

So what is it that presses your hot buttons and makes your juices flow?  For some, it may be politics, education or religion. For others, it may be music, business or entertainment.

Regardless, something in life makes us stand up and be counted!

Ask yourself, “What will I stand and support even if I’m the only one standing?”

Finding this one thing in your life, is the foundation that you will use to build your future.


“By believing passionately in something that does not yet exist, we create it.” – Nikos Kazantzakis


2. What do I believe in?


Most people live their lives without a personal value system.  They’ve never thought through their beliefs, instead they’ve been conditioned by outside influences.

A personal value system is a set of principles that drive and guide your behaviour. It gives you structure and purpose by assisting you to determine what is meaningful and important to you.  It also helps you express WHO you are and what you STAND FOR.

A personal value system permits you the experience of joy in unwrapping the gift of belief. Without it, you become robotic in swallowing whatever useless dung is fed to you.
The average person goes through life strolling down the street of scepticism (sceptic about God, marriage, friendship, love, trust and forgiveness). Worse, they are quick to point out what they don’t believe and easily condemn those who believe in something.

When you have searched and struggled to find what you believe in, you won’t be careless to let it slip out of your hands. Moses paid a hefty price to find himself before the unveiling of his purpose.

When you have struggled to prove your belief, it will be even more precious to you than gold.

How many people do you know are travelling down the street of life, focusing on their doubts but are blind about their faith?

The law of focus teaches us that by focusing on what you don’t want, you will actually draw it towards you!
Stop being enchanted by what you despise and begin to focus on what you desire!
What is it that you believe in? Write it down. Speak it out loudly to yourself, when you wake in the morning and when you sleep at night.
Solidify your beliefs and your beliefs will begin to solidify you.


“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul;

the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.”
— Napoleon Hill



3. What am I discontent about?


Discontentment or dissatisfaction has been characterised as a vice that should be avoided. And yet, ALL progress stems from a healthy discontentment.

When you understand that, Life’s purpose often derives from the place of pain. Progress begins at the point of pain. Pain acts as the ultimate motivator, spurring us on to change. But pain is NOT enough to change you, only knowledge can change you.


Until your present state becomes painful enough, you will not be motivated to change. Attempt to associate pain with losing and it will spur you on to winning.

I love what Maxwell says, “You don’t overcome challenges by making them smaller but by making yourself bigger.”

As long as losing is comfortable to you, you will not appreciate the dramatic actions needed to begin winning. By pinpointing what bothers you, you can begin to pursue what will make you happy.


“Let me embrace thee, sour adversity, for wise men say it is the wisest course.” — William Shakespeare


4. What am I passionate about?

Uncovering your passion is to discover your distinction – your difference or uniqueness.

Uncovering your passion is to uncover your potential – your potential is in your passion.

By applying yourself to do what you are passionate about is to increase your chances for success by a thousand fold.


The world, sadly, is full of passionless people.  Do not get lost in spending your life engrossed in work that disgusts you and frustrates you.

Boredom is not only the greatest insult to your Maker; boredom is the absence of passion.


“If passion drives you, let reason hold the reins.” — Benjamin Franklin

5. What keeps me awake at night?


Do you remember being so excited about something or someone that you couldn’t even fall asleep?

For many people, it has been too long since such a moment existed. Listen to Benjamin Franklin on this pint, “Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75.”

When you are young, you are full of energy, every new day holds a new discovery, you want to learn everything that you can and as fast as possible, you are full of ideas on how you could change the world – you are alive!

What stole this from you?


Worry shouldn’t keep you up at night, possibilities should.


Make your dreams so big, so vibrant, so invigorating, so impossible that your future begins to manifest in your present.

“A man is not old until regrets start taking the place of dreams.” Don’t let this happen to you. Don’t wait until tomorrow to start dreaming. Start now!
Perpahs the reason you have dreams when you are sleeping is because you never chose to dream when you are awake!

So God’s only way to get you to dream is to make you sleep! Even then, negativity consumes you so much that your dream turns into a nightmare.

But this isn’t your destiny!  You are meant for greater things than this.

Don’t wait to go to sleep to have a dream; have one while you’re awake.

Discover your dream and live it!

“Great minds have purposes; others have wishes.” — Washington Irving


6. What do I want for my life?


Too many people wait until it is too late to ask this question, “What do I want for my life?”

Whatever your age, decide what it is you want to do with your life and then begin moving in that direction.

You have been given the gift of CHOICE. Open the gift and start deciding today!

If you don’t decide what you want for your life, somebody else will.

Without clear-cut goals, you’ll react like dry fallen leaves blown about by the “wind of whatever.”

Don’t let life blow you around in a thousand different directions – Nowhere!

If you do not know what harbour you are headed for, no wind will be the right wind.

Like driftwood, you will be tossed to and fro.

“A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.” — William Shedd

Start dreaming again, discover your purpose and be counted! 

Time free from workplace obligations seems to become ever more difficult to keep. According to a recent study, 70% of workers struggle with finding a work-life system that works for them.

This means more than 2/3 of your staff are not proactive, distracted, and operating below their potential.

The solution,

For many in the workforce, achieving any type of work-life balance can seem like a myth, especially when technology has made us accessible around the clock and work has become boundariless.


Despite the demanding realities our information industry forces upon us,  there are those that have managed to carve out satisfying and meaningful lives outside of their work.

Too often people believe that to achieve success, one needs to give up their personal life. (This is not true!)

They do not believe that work-life balance is possible in a meaningful way, but it is!

There is no better way to demonstrate this than to hear it directly from some of the most successful people in the world.

Here are some of the tools they practice: 7 Habits Of People Who Have Achieved Work-Life Balance.


7 Habits Of Successful People Who Have Achieved Work-Life Balance





Most people treat “life” as something that just happens.  They’re victims, who react to life and let outside circumstances decide their fate, their agenda.   They live by Default.

On the other hand, there are those, no none achievers.  They walk into any situation and grab it by the horns. They determine the outcome of their day, their week. These people create the life they want to live and don’t accept anything less. They live by Design.

Instead of just letting life happen to you, make some choices to achieve work-life balance. Think about what you want from life and how you want to invest your time?




Work-life balance going off the rails in your life is usually a result of allowing old and unproductive cycles to continue to control you.

Let old habits and old ways of thinking slide, or you will!

Endeavour to be intentional and uncompromising concerning this.

Winners who stay on top of the surf are good at staying on track by making conscious decisions to continually talk to the important people (mentors, spiritual leaders) in their lives about what is working or not, and make decisions to change direction if needed.

As they say, “when you discover that you are riding a dead horse, the best strategy is to dismount” – get a new horse, and a new whip!

Life is progressive. Situations change. If you don’t realise this, you’ll end up in a place you don’t want to be.





People who have managed to carve out a work-life balance, that works for them don’t just wait to see what time is left over after work.

Make it a point to plan and book “time off,” to spend outside of work and vigorously guard this time.

Emergencies are unavoidable.

Unfavourable situations don’t need permission to show up in our lives, from work to other matters; learn to resist any intrusion of this time strongly.

It’s been statistically proven, one of the greatest regrets upon dying is the deep regret that:

“I wish I spent more time with the people I love.”

It’s easy to let that time slip away, but once it’s gone you can never get it back.

Besides, as Steve Blank author of the Startup Owners Manual stated it, “When you’re gone, would you rather have your gravestone say:

‘He never missed a meeting? or one that said, He was a great father.’”


I’m so grateful that I’ve learnt to protect this time, regardless!






People who manage work-life balance have developed a strong sense of who they are, their values and what is important to them.

If your desire for success is greater than your desire to be principled, you will compromise on the essentials of true success.

Having a success silhouette for everything you do helps you determine what success means to you.

Listen to Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. on this point:


“Reconsider your definitions. We are prone to judge success by the index of our salaries or the size of our automobiles rather than by the quality of our service and relationship to mankind.”


Wow! That’s food for thought….?





People who maintain balance are able to turn off their electronic devices to enjoy uninterrupted, quality time doing things they value and enjoy.

They realise that multitasking is a myth and focusing on the task at hand is the key to “living in the moment.”

They learn to “compartmentalise” their time.

Don’t confuse having a career with having a life or a family life. If you are a spiritual person like me, invite God into every department of your life.

Learn to be present in each moment, experience and savour life.

Consider the power of meditation (see my article: 7 Sacred Minutes with God), listen to more music (I love classical), do physical activity (I could improve a whole lot on this one) or some other interest that allows you to get away from the pressures of everyday life – to relax, rejuvenate and regenerate your spirit, soul and body.

Remember, “balance is not better time management, but better boundary management.”




Many people go through life and get caught up in situations and circumstances that end up controlling them.

Generally, 80% of all of the activity that you are involved in right now is taking you nowhere.

Discern what is the 20 % of things that matter and move towards your dream and give yourself wholeheartedly to it.

Balance can only be achieved when plans are defined around time frames and a passionate determination to make some sacrifices to get what you want in the end. For example, many entrepreneurs typically plan to spend a substantial amount of time in the early part of their businesses.

Those that achieve balance down the road see this as a sacrifice that will allow them to spend extra time and energy in other areas they are passionate about once the business is established.

The greater the sacrifice the greater the glory of leisure!






People who have achieved good balance have surrounded themselves with other people who are wiser them they are (either through books or friendships.) As the ancient proverbs say, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

Gravitate towards wise people and move away from the unwise. How can you tell the wise apart from the foolish?

The answer is very simple actually,

The wise, have a consistent track record or a history of making wise decisions which are evident in their lives.

Don’t be fooled with titles, positions or money. Find a strategic life and business mentor and also built a strong support network, (family, friends, church family) they can depend upon to help them get through difficult times.


The most important person in my life next to my Maker is my wife. Listen to this piece of wisdom from, Sheryl Sandberg, (COO of Facebook),


“The most important career decision you’ll make is who your life partner is.”

I love this!


And finally,  as you endeavour to find work-life balance, learn to become more generous with your life, time, talent and money, wisely. Extend yourselves to help out others, serve your community and Church.

Have a variety of interests, don’t just live for yourself or your family. Always be open to new learning and possibilities.  I love this statement from Zuckerberg,


“I spend most of my time thinking about how to connect the world and serve our community better, but a lot of that time isn’t in our office or meeting with people or doing what you’d call real work. I take a lot of time just to read and think about things by myself.” ―Mark Zuckerberg


So there you have it, the 7 Habits of Successful People. 

Experience life to the fullest. Don’t just exist, live!